Hey Goddess,

“What I love most about our friendship is that it’s based solely on inappropriate conversations that no person should have. Ever.” 😂 

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It’s Time to Slow Down

Friendship code? It all begins with being your own bestie! But how do you know if your "self-friendship" meter is running low? If you're feeling rundown, getting sick more often, or just not feeling like yourself, that's an obvious sign. But what about the not-so-obvious signs? Let's dive in and explore those too!

We've all experienced moments when we feel like we're not being our own best friend. Here are some sneaky signals that your self-friendship meter may be running low:

1. Our emotions are out of control: Feeling emotions is totally natural and healthy, but when they control us they can be overwhelming and damaging. Trust me, I've been there. In a toxic relationship, I was consumed by others' opinions and needs, leaving nothing for myself. My emotions were all over the place, spilling out at all the wrong moments. I'd neglected my own self-care. So please, feel your feelings, but take care of YOU first. Self-care is not only about your outer shell it’s also about your insides.

2. Our schedules are entirely too packed: We've all been there, saying "yes" to everything and filling our schedules to the brim. It's easy to get caught up in the flurry of activities, commitments, and engagements, but sooner or later, if we keep it up, we'll crash and burn. And that's why it's important to remember: it's okay to say "no" and rearrange your priorities. You don't have to be the person who's always flaking or overcommitting. Be true to yourself and follow through on the things that matter the most. It's not about saying "yes" to everything, it's about saying "yes" to the right things.

3. We resent our closest relationships: Have you ever felt resentful towards someone for canceling plans or not meeting your expectations? I used to think it was all their fault, but I had an epiphany. Resentment is an inside job. It's about our own priorities. If we feel resentful towards someone, it's probably because they're putting themselves first, while we're putting them first. For example, I used to get mad when a friend canceled plans due to low energy, but now I realize it was my fault for not being honest about my own energy levels. It takes courage to prioritize ourselves, but it's worth it to avoid the toxic cycle of resentment.

Here are a few resources to start supporting yourself this weekend:

• On our instagram live this week we talked about a concept called Cycle Syncing. Cycle Syncing, also known as menstrual cycle awareness, is all about aligning our daily activities, exercise routines, and even our diets with the different phases of our menstrual cycle. By tuning in to our body's natural rhythm, we can better support ourselves physically and emotionally throughout each cycle phase. I am by no means an expert on Cycle Syncing, here is a resource, in my book store. Under the health and wellness section there is a book called the Cycle Syncing Handbook.

• Also we discussed something called the Reset, written by my Magic Bestie, Tandy. The plan helps you manage your chronic illness or if you’re trying to see how your body reacts to specific foods, this plan will help you reintroduce foods back into your body overtime to figure out what makes your body thrive. The book is also under the health and wellness section of my bookstore. It’s called the Unicorn Wellness Handbook. It’s called Unicorn Wellness after Tandy’s business. We are the unicorns, we are magical, and everything she teaches helps us maintain and enhance our magic.

Give yourself fun, sun, rest, and grace this weekend. I know I will! Okay byeee💗