Hey bestie,

“Do you just ever look at your friends and think, We are going to be some weird freaking old people one day?”.

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What Type of Friend Are You?

What type of friend are you? And what type of friend do you want to be? These are questions that we don’t ask ourselves very often when it comes to our friendships. I’ve noticed that we always focus on whether or not someone was a good friend to us versus if we’re a good friend to others. It can be hard to turn the looking glass inward but if we want to have more fulfilling friendships that benefit ourselves and others, we have to stop and ask ourselves these questions.

In pursuit of more meaningful friendships, authenticity is key. To become the friend you want to be, here are some introspective questions to ask yourself.

1. Am I a good friend to myself? I’ve had friend challenges throughout the years and in some instances I was the terrible friend. It’s hard to hear but again we keep it honest here. And if I’m being honest, sometimes it was me. And the reason why I had friendship challenges was because I was not a good friend to myself. I let so many things slide that I would tell any of my other friends not to stand for. I put myself last in so many ways because that’s what I thought being a good person meant. But I became burnt out and resentful of some of my friendships. I took a step back and started becoming a better friend to myself.

2. What do I have the capacity for as a friend? At times, we tend to overpromise in our friendships, biting off more than we can chew. Inevitably, we either fail to follow through or follow through too much, burning ourselves out in the process. Sometimes we even just have too much going on in our lives to be a consistent friend. We have to ask ourselves if we have the capacity to show up as a friend? And we have to learn how to be honest about what we have the capacity for with our friends.

3. Am I currently in a good emotional state to be a supportive friend? We could be the best of friends normally but if we’re going through something that constantly has us in an emotional cycle we may not show up as the best friend we normally could be. Figuring out if you

Be sure to share this with a couple of people so they can start elevating their friendships today.

Here are a few resources to support your journey to becoming a better friend:

• Ask Me Anything - Have a friendship concern, submit a question and get a custom video response.